Doesn’t it seem like there is always something that happens which encompasses our entire attention, and thus drain our positive energy?
Happiness is the uncovering of what you already have. You have all you need for happiness, right now. You don’t need to change anything about yourself or your life. You just need to see what’s already there.
Let me show you what I found out about myself, and how I became happy.
The first way to find happiness when you’re feeling lost is to stop looking for it! When we’re feeling hurt, scared, anxious, heartbroken, abandoned, rejected, insecure, envious or threatened, the trick is not to avoid the uncomfortable, painful and challenging feelings, it’s to embrace them. I know this might seem counter-intuitive. You might ask yourself, “How will focusing on my pain help me find happiness?” I’m going to tell you.
There are smaller steps we can take in our lives to be content and happy.
For example, I learned while I decluttered and created a minimalist home, it didn’t automatically give me a feeling of contentedness. I needed to learn that separately. Decluttering, however, did teach me a lot: I learned about why I was holding on to things (fear), and learned that the fears were unfounded. I learned that I could do well even without all that false security and that I was already strong enough to live life without a lot of unnecessary things.
Simplify your life: I still recommend simplifying your life, not because of the fantasy life you think you’ll create, but because you learn about yourself.
You can also find happiness within You can strive for happiness in external things all you like: house, job, car, a loving partner, food, drugs, shopping. But these don’t make you happy, at least not for long, and when they don’t give you continual happiness then you have to keep striving for more, and your happiness is always subject to the whim of these external things and people.
You can learn that you have some amazing things inside you, that they are beautiful if you learn to accept them for what they are — and not try to meet up with any fantasy. You can learn that life is always amazing, as it is, without the fantasies. And because the happiness is within, you aren’t subject to losing it because people aren’t in the right mood, or because of external events changing your source of happiness.This means stripping away the fantasies, one by one. It means looking within, and learning to be OK with what you find.
It’s not an overnight process, but the amazingness is already within you. It’s all around you (and actually within and without are not different things). No fantasies needed.
The mind-body connection: If you refuse to deal with your feelings, they don’t just pack up and move on, they show up in your tight shoulders or hips, clenched jaw, stress headache, chronic illness, upset stomach, insomnia, lethargy, and so on. It takes a lot of energy to deny your reality, and that comes at a great cost to your mental, physical and spiritual well-being.
Sending you love, light & peace!