Do you often feel like you have over-extended yourself to please others? Or that you put the needs, wishes and feelings of others before your own?
Does this make you feel resentful, frustrated, overwhelmed, or depleted? Do you feel disconnected from what your body, mind and soul need to feel your best?
This makes us feel many times ‘Powerless’ – the feeling that arises when we find ourselves in a bad situation, yet we don’t see any doable solutions for improvement, or we can’t find any escape. If we do see answers or escape, they seem impossible, and we lack the courage, energy, and wherewithal to take action. When we reach the point where we can’t go further, we have arrived at a crossroad. It’s the point where we have a significant, life-influencing choice to make. We can decide to embrace the fear, challenge, and discomfort involved in making a change, or we can allow the misery of familiarity to overcome us and continue to steal our strength and power.
Below are my top strategies and reminders for fully owning your power back. Just do it!
No excuses, take full responsibility
Life is hard. Sometimes we’re affected by things that are entirely outside of our control. Sometimes, these circumstances will press and push our lives in ways we don’t want. Extreme responsibility is taking ownership of your own happiness. You need to be the one to take responsibility, not blame anyone else, and pursue what you want out of life. No more excuses.
People pleasers rarely use the word “no.” They have soft boundaries that people with harder personalities either roll over or take advantage of. The majority of people have no idea how dangerous it is to say ‘yes’ all the time. How unhealthy it is to constantly try to please everyone around you by betraying your own self. And even though we all fall into this trap from time to time, if you start saying ‘no’ when no is needed, and if you say it with conviction, not only will you take back your power, but you will also reclaim your right to life, to happiness, to purpose, and to love.
Let go of the complaining habit
Complaining is a pointless waste of time and emotional energy. The time you spend complaining could be better spent looking for a way to accomplish or work on your goals.
It’s time to accept the present situations in our life. “It is what it is”.
Ask yourself this powerful question, “ What’s next?”.
Set Boundaries/ Protect Yourself
Negative people always have a problem for every solution. The fact of the matter is it’s damned near impossible to maintain a happy, positive disposition when you’re surrounded by miserable people who only see the negative in everything. It does you no good to spend your time around perpetually negative people. You don’t need to cut them off if you don’t feel that’s right. Just minimizing the time around them and the impact of their opinions on how you conduct your life will put so much more power back into your hands.
Boost Your Self Confidence/ Stop Comparing yourself with others
Are you confident in yourself? Your capabilities? Your ability to handle what life throws at you?
Life is difficult sometimes. It can be hard to know what the right thing to do is. That’s why you can’t focus on the intangible, potential problems of the future. Instead, what you want to focus on are your own capabilities. Your power and strength are in your ability to problem-solve and roll with the punches. You can’t control what life throws at you. But what you can control is how you respond to those blows.
Positive Self- talk/ Train your inner voice:
The words that you use matter. How you talk to yourself significantly impacts your self-perception, confidence in your abilities, and how you carry yourself in the world.
In order to take our power back, we must notice the negative language that we to talk to ourselves…
“I’m so stupid. I shouldn’t have done that.”
“I can’t do this. I’m not good enough.”
“Why would anyone love me? I’m garbage.”
Say these positive lines instead:
“I made a mistake, but that’s okay. Everyone does.”
“I can’t do this. I don’t have the skills, and that’s okay. I don’t have to know everything. I’ll ask for help.”
“I am worthy of love. I just haven’t found the right person for me yet.”
Your power is waiting for you. You just need to be willing to step up, step into the life meant for you, and push forward. It will take courage and work, but you are more than capable of handling it.
So get out there and do something great. Be the best you that you can possibly be.
Love and light,
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